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Easter Thread: CrunchEaster Peepers
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Sorry that you're experiencing this. Though there might be other reasons, some "friends" really can't be bothered if it's your turn to ask for help. And sadly, this really happens.
Prioritize yourself bro, self-care is a must and consider seeking professional help as well if needed.
Just know that better days will come my friend.
So which of you is this?
Its entertainment
“But I thought it was about mates that are jerks, honest”
if you rarely post then its possible your activities could be "de-prioritzed" on their feeds.
anyone up for a ranked game of 1v1 jerkmate?
Live on kick.com?
i'll out jerk any mate here. You're so on
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Worst Easter flash offer so far
is tools ok or not?
I actually thought it is the opposite, social media sometimes show notification if someone hasnt posted for very long because a person who rarely posts usually mean the quality of the post might be better
But maybe they do text analysis and stuff and prioritise depends on various other factors.
I'm really not sure cos all i see on my feed are
Post of person who posts rarely might be highlighted to encourage the person to post more. The algorithms are looking for more engagement, they don't care even the slightest bit about quality as more engagement = more $$$.
That's weird because I remember receiving such notification in the past...
it surprises me your shed isn't on fire more often
Yes it happens. Not because the post might be quality. But because they want more engagement. It would encourage people posting rarely to post more often.
I echo the sane feeling.
The people we consider "friends", majority will always prioritize themselves over others. It's not like they don't want to help. Just priorities. I have started learning this lately and started putting myself first. Majority of the times I end up helping friends and family in need but only after I have asked myself is there somewhere i need to be/ do i need to be with someone else/ have i given time to take care of myself first.
No, you aren't a failure, it's unfortunately just how society works. Wish you the best and if at anytime you feel like engaging in a virtual dialog hit me up.
Once you learn to prioritize oneself, you start looking at things differently. It really hurts that when need is there no one is stepping up.
Best wishes @FAT32
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I'd say that if you're really having problems, actually reach out directly to one of your friends and ask for help.
Social media really isn't a place for asking for help. Even though to you it feels significant that this is your only post, it's probably drowned out by the noise of stuff they see. Even if they saw it, because it's a post, most people won't interact with it. Even if they saw it and care about it, they might not have understood the importance of it. On a few occasions, I've replied via PM to some people I've met and added on social media, but don't really know well, when they've posted something that seems to come from a dark place and I was worried about them. Almost invariably, it's something trivial and they're just attention seeking. After a while, you just start filtering stuff like that out without even reading it. To you it might have been the only time you've posted and should be a significant message, they probably haven't understood the importance of it.
Another issue is that the more people are in a space, the less likely any one person is to do something because they assume that someone else has done it. The old example is if someone has had e.g. a heart attack on a busy street, and someone starts doing CPR. If they shout "someone call an ambulance", chances are that nobody will because everyone will assume someone else is doing it. It needs to be "hey you in the grey shirt, call an ambulance".
It might be that even if you go through a bunch of friends individually and ask directly, you might not get want you need. Keep asking - people might have valid (to them) reasons why they can't help, and often you'll find what you need from someone you least expect. Not the person you've helped out loads, but someone you don't know as well. That's fine.
But absolutely, if you can't find anyone in your IRL friends to help / listen, getting professional help is a good proxy.
for a $36 p/yr VDS, i'll take it
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@FAT32 Man, I know things have been rough. Drink some coffee, watch your favorite series, or take a walk in the park. Just relax yourself for a bit. You must’ve helped a lot of friends. You deserve that same care too. This community’s got your back and will keep you moving forward. You’re not alone.
wat
Until you're gradually ignored, and eventually deleted...(some names in my friends list just disappeared.) because maintaining a relationship is a two-way street.